On the art of 'Facade'

A 'Facade'.... A cover, a colorful (or colorless) mask. This 'Facade' is something that allows us to 'warm up' to a person. Should this 'Facade' be a necessity? Or should it be eliminated entirely? First, it would be quite important to mention that a facade is something necessary in order to achieve social prowess and obtain conversational poise. Without a cover-up, we would not therefore be able to select leaders, friends, and acquaintances. But, rather, should we all select people based on their 'Facade'? What lurks behind the mask? Quite honestly, i would much rather live with one who confidently displays his or her inner motives than one who hides behind secrets and lies. To select a leader for your country.. Are you really going to choose someone who admits to having had skeletons in his closet? It would not seem logical. We humans are obsolete, in that we expect perfection.

In the eyes of a typical man, he sees and mingles only with those who he finds to be 'good'. This perception, of course, could vary from person to person, but really, it most surely comes down to how the individual effectively utilizes 'Facade'. Interestingly, this skill is one which only requires a great deal of deception or even, acting skills in order to be used correctly. To look at this issue objectively, we must admit that there are indeed two sides to this skill. A use of facade offers ease of tension, a great start to a relationship, and a simple way to begin a friendship. Lack of facade offers a 'take it or leave it' approach, at the risk of more lost relationships. This 'Facade' can bring one to the highest points of popularity, but at what cost? A loss of character perhaps? A life shrouded in mystery? An over dependence upon fate and the hopeful mentality that it will all 'stay hidden under the rug'? The use of 'Facade' in every endeavor is foolish, indeed. We can all see that. But, what if, say, a man is a professional in his workplace. Would it be wise to, say, reveal everything about his character to a new customer? No. He must make use of 'Facade'. This 'Facade' can be used in a variety of situations, but i believe it is a matter of whether one is seeking a shallow or deep relationship. A lack of facade can result in disastrous results professionally, but amazing results casually. A simple-minded person could be deterred by a 'Here I am!' approach. This could save one from being taken advantage of by a person, who cannot deal with the faults of others, and is therefore, unable to deal with his/her own 'faults', thus aiming to create an unbreakable, intimate relationship.

I come to this conclusion as thus, "'Facade' is both a tool and a curse, in that it can be used effectively, when the timing is right. If used professionally, the results are beautiful; casually, potentially fatal. I note here that 'Facade' is even more effective when used with a tool i call 'Intuitive Reasoning'(More on this later), which allows one to rely on a gut feeling initially, and then reason the feeling against social clues and body language."

On The Much Debated Topic Of Free Will Versus Fate

Through my own personal experience, i can hereby argue that both free will and fate exist in this world. I believe there is a balance point between both beliefs, and one can obtain a favorable outcome from the world by avoiding any extremes on either end. For instance, a religious zealot will more than likely believe that the forces of the universe will guide him and solve all of his problems. On the other hand, a strong atheist is prone to believe in the idea that he has the power to control all of his own actions and that no other force could possibly have a role in his life. Both extremes display an issue of power, or lack thereof, over one's self. This results in what i believe, is too little or too much faith in the universe's forces, whether they be god, luck, or karma.

Next, i come to the subject of faith, which results in a 'letting go' of the situations out of one's control. A true optimist will often derive their positivity from faith, and this faith will allow them to continue unhindered by the trivialities which stricken them. While i am not one who believes in a god, i do believe there can be no possible explanation for the forces which happen to play an important role in this universe. People have come to personify these forces so that they may feel as if they have a better relation to them. This is, in my opinion, a mistake. I say this because labeling the forces creates misconnection from the names that others have given them. This, can easily create unhappiness, more specifically towards those who believe in other 'names'.

Lastly, i visit upon the topic of free will. It is an amazing concept, which believes we build our own futures, our own goals, and our own livelihoods. If only it were that easy. I was, at one time, a strong believer in the power of free will; but it just isn't that simple. To think that by controlling every aspect of your life you can achieve a perfect life is foolish. Anyone could point out the fact that nothing comes without some luck, some faith, or some karma. Some are born lucky, some gain luck, and some never touch luck. The same concept applies to faith and karma.

A faith in these unknown forces which also have control over our lives is important, because it lifts misery, but a recognition and respect of the power we are given over ourselves is also important, as it offers independence. From my personal experience, an overabundance or over-reliance on anything is instant misery.

With respect to all religions, i ask this: what barriers do your religion create? Who /what determines how good/bad your day will be? What is spirituality?